Attendees gain 'confidence' at October LeadingWELL event

Published: Nov 1, 2019 11:03:13 AM
Topics: Community, News

On Wednesday, a group of women gathered for the second in the series of TS Bank's LeadingWELL workshops.

The event was hosted by Revela, with sponsors TS Bank, TS Prosperity Group, Pottawattamie County Community Foundation and American Family Insurance-Castle and Associates.

Held at the new Council Bluffs Police Station, attendees discussed the workshop’s topic for the evening: Confidence, and how to get more of it. 

“TS Bank along with our sponsors, believe that there is a need for leadership training and networking events specifically geared toward women in the Council Bluffs area. We recognize that there is a lot of leadership knowledge in our community and women who want to empower the next generation. Our goal is to provide a safe place for sharing ideas and to create strong connections between the women in our community.”

At the beginning of the workshop, attendees were asked what they would do more of if they had more confidence. 

Responses varied from asking for a pay raise to having authentic conversations. Others mentioned that they might not have to question themselves constantly or overthink things. 

According to Bain & Co and LinkedIn survey of 8400 adults, 63% of women compared to 75% of men feel they can rise to senior management when they enter the workforce.  By the time they reach their mid-career, on 57% of women compared to 66% of men feel they will ride to senior management. 

Attendees had homework to do before the workshop and were asked to watch this video. Here is one of the quotes from the video: 

"It would be our greatest shame to see our best ideas go unrealized and our brightest dreams go unreached all because we lacked the engine of confidence."

- Brittany Packnett

Facilitator Lona Smart, spoke about the four paradigms or mental filters through which we view the world and make meaning of our life experiences. These filters are defined by our core beliefs and influence the decisions we make every day. 


At any given time, we experience our lives from one of four paradigms:

1. Fear - Life becomes a battleground, awareness and self-esteem are low. 
2. Duty - The most common paradigm, doing what we are 'supposed' to do.
3. Achievement - Personal competence, never content, always striving.
4. Integrity - We cease to see ourselves as victims in circumstances.

Attendees highlighted sections of our printed handouts out loud, mentioning that they could relate to feelings of anxiety, that someone is out to get you and that you are the victim when operating in the fear paradigm

When focused on 'duty' they pointed out the need to not rock the boat and the need to get along with everyone. 


Many people could relate to the achievement paradigm, mentioning that they sometimes criticize themselves too often and have the need to be perfect. 

All could identify that living in the integrity paradigm is most appealing. When in that mode, you focus on having empathy for others while taking full responsibility for your actions. One attendee gave an example of having to tell her parents that she was planning a vacation over the holidays and would have to miss spending time with them for the first time ever. She recognized her parents’ feelings and had empathy, but was doing what was best for her and her family.

Michelle Hill also spoke while attendees broke into small groups for discussions. 

At the end of the workshop, we were asked to think about who in their life is confident and who makes them feel confident. Also, how they can work on their confidence over the next 30 days. 


The next LeadingWELL event will be held on Wednesday, March 18, 2020. For updates, please request to join the Facebook group

About TS Bank: TS Bank’s mission is to Ignite Prosperity® in the communities it serves. Leading the resurgence of community banking, TS Bank reinvests 10% of their net income locally; hosting educational events and partners with local organizations and non-profits. Treynor State Bank was chartered in 1923 and branded to TS Bank in 2005. TS Bank has $384 million in assets, along with the largest Iowa state-chartered C-Corp trust department west of Des Moines at nearly $245 million in assets named TS Prosperity Group. Branch locations include Treynor, Macedonia, Atlantic, Corning and Council Bluffs, Iowa. For more information visit

Written by Melissa Peterson